http://www.talksfu.ca/forum/categories/general/p508/feed.rss Sat, 08 Aug 2026 21:48:16 +0000 General - talkSFU en-CA http://www.talksfu.ca/forum/discussion/692/what-do-you-guys-eat-for-breakfast Fri, 01 Dec 2006 23:24:26 +0000 noname 692@/forum/discussions
I usually don't eat breakfast b/c I have to leave my house by 6 am if I want to make it on time for work. And I don't really enjoy eating when the toothpaste taste is still in my mouth. But if I'm hungry I'll probably eat a bananna.]]> http://www.talksfu.ca/forum/discussion/699/night-clubs-in-van Sat, 02 Dec 2006 13:21:17 +0000 Rhea 699@/forum/discussions
Personally I am not a big fan of the night club scene here in Vancouver... Too much rap, and hip hop music being played. I dont see how you can really dance to that...

In EVERY other non North American Country in the world you will only hear house music/trance/techno being played at night clubs. I'm from europe and we've had some insane nights partyin to corsten and tiesto sets
The way it should it be :!: :!:]]> http://www.talksfu.ca/forum/discussion/700/what-exactly-do-fraternities-at-ubc-do Sat, 02 Dec 2006 13:24:38 +0000 johnny 700@/forum/discussions
not that theres anything wrong with that Rolling Eyes

I"m sure there's more to it than meets the eye... for some reason we don't have fraternities at SFU so I've always been kinda curious
Can someone educate me?]]> http://www.talksfu.ca/forum/discussion/695/found-a-good-article-about-fighting Sat, 02 Dec 2006 03:28:21 +0000 Karmagrl 695@/forum/discussions By Kristen Armstrong

Arguments happen. No matter what kind of relationship you have -- with bosses, friends, girlfriends or wives -- it‘s inevitable that you will have to deal with disagreements. Although these battles exist, they don’t have to be fought in such a way that they burn bridges and ruin the relationships in your life.

There are, believe it or not, constructive and healthy ways to fight. Although they don’t save you from the inevitably unpleasant nature of arguments, constructive fights can help to ensure that something is solved and the same fight isn’t repeated. Contrarily, some things you do when you duke it out can make matters even worse than they already are. Below is a list of seven fighting styles that typically lead to an unhappy ending, and reasons why they can be so destructive.

1- Introducing other issues
In this style of fighting, you tend to bring up issues that have nothing to do with the fight at hand. For instance, you’re jealous of your girlfriend’s best "guy pal" and you’re having a fight about it, but you bring up her attitude toward your mother or how she leaves dirty dishes in the bathroom. Not only does this bring up more issues than can possibly be settled in one battle, but it also clouds the issue at hand. This means that after you have fought it out and made up, the issue of your girl’s extra-curricular man is still in the air and you’re likely to have it out about him in the future. If the next fight also gets clouded, you could fight about one problem time and again without ever solving it.

New tactic: Next time, instead of skirting the issues, deal with the argument at hand -- and that’s all. Any outside issues can be saved for later; don’t worry, they won’t go anywhere. Remind yourself of what started this fight, and stick to it. Keep your opponent on topic, too. Fights will be cleaner and shorter this way, and may actually settle a disagreement.

2- Making personal jabs
If you fight dirty, you’re more vengeful, even if unintentionally so. You air dirty laundry and drag personal beefs into unrelated fights, usually in an unconscious attempt to hurt the person with whom you battle. Any statement that begins with “Oh yeah, at least I didn’t… ” indicates that you’re fighting dirty. This style of fighting is destructive because you can hurt someone in ways you will later regret -- like when you bring up your best buddy’s cheating nature during an argument about a lost video game. When the argument gets dirty, it tends to escalate matters very quickly, and it can be damaging for both sides.

New tactic: Instead of making the fight about persons, make it about behaviors. Don’t focus on your buddy’s downfalls as a human, instead, tell him that what he did pissed you off. That way, he knows that if the behavior is stopped, so will the argument -- and you make far fewer enemies.

Learn why it's bad to say, “Well, if you’d pick up around here once in a while we wouldn’t have this problem…”

3- The blame game
As a blamer, you find any weak excuse to make someone else the bad guy instead of admitting your fault. This is a defense mechanism. Perhaps you feel that admitting your faults will negate your side of the argument or that you’ll lose the fight if you give one iota. Your claim is that the fight is due to someone else’s mistakes. Unfortunately, when you deny responsibility, you are unable to settle disputes by mutually conceding some points and making compromises with your adversary. Your opponent must accept fault if there is to be any resolution to the dispute. This may work a couple of times, but it will wear on relationships and no issue will ever be totally settled. Respect may also be lost for those who always give in.

New tactic: In the end, you can admit your fault while still driving your point home. Admit to your secretary that you flew off the handle and tell her that you’re sorry. Above all, explain that it bothers you when she constantly corrects you. This way, you still assert your point of view while exposing the two sides. People are generally far more willing to give if you give.

4- Playing the victim
The victim also shirks responsibility, but instead of coming off as triumphant in an altercation, the victim wants to be pitied. When the victim is accused of being arrogant and pushy, he claims to only want to be liked -- and then he cries about the fact that his opponent has done just the opposite. This causes the opponent to claim responsibility for the fight, promising to never doubt the victim again. The victim has now underhandedly secured a role in which he will never be viewed as guilty. In time, this will grate against the nerves of the parties involved. Friends and coworkers may begin to feel that the victim doesn’t pull his own weight -- and any attempt at challenging the status quo will only turn awry. Eventually, others will get fed up and ditch you if you play the victim.

New tactic: Buck up and admit your fault. Tell your opponent if you genuinely feel that you’ve been trampled on, but assert your need for change on that front. If you’re arrogant and pushy, tell people you’re aware of that fact and that you’re trying to make changes. Acknowledge your role in the altercation and move toward a resolution.

5- For lack of a better word
Swearing when you’re angry comes off as out of control, unprofessional and insensitive. Swearing never eases the tensions in a fight. If you swear at the person you’re fighting with, you’re insulting his dignity. This tactic shifts the fight from a disagreement of opinions to a personal attack. Name-calling is especially out of bounds. This behavior packs even more punch because it resonates beyond the fight itself -- if you’ve called your boss a name, even if the fight is settled, he’ll always remember what you really think of him.

New tactic: Keep it clean. Not to beat a dead horse, but stick to the problem at hand. Concentrate on the behavior, not the person. Your point will be clearer if you speak rationally, and things may actually shift in your favor.

6- Resorting to violent actions
This category includes fighters such as the door-slammer, the thrower-of-objects, the foot-stomper, and the pounder-of-fists-on-tables. All of these behaviors render thoughts of childish fights between siblings. They accomplish nothing and only serve to make your opponent angrier. If you’re fighting with your boss, you’re likely to ruin his or the company’s property, and you come off looking extremely unprofessional. Anger should be handled -- especially in the workplace -- with a touch of class. Everyone’s allowed to get angry, but the key is to control your anger. Throwing objects shows a lack of respect for others in the room. None of us wants our boss or girlfriend to think of us as childish or out of control.

New tactic: If you have the urge to throw things, find an alternative way to vent. For instance, try writing on a piece of paper why you’re angry, take a break, go to the gym or take a long walk. The point is to remove yourself from the situation, but let the other person know that you need to do this so that you don’t become the fighter that storms out.

7- Deserting the scene
Whenever a fight starts, you’re first out the door and you tell yourself that you’d rather put things away until you’re less angry. Waiting until you’re cool-headed is a good idea because you could be thinking more rationally later, and are less likely to say something that you’ll regret. In fact, compared to some of the alternatives, storming out is a great idea; however, there can be downsides to this. One such downside is that the fight’s catalyst may stew in your head and stomach until you think of nastier quips and drudge up old fights in your head. While both sides are getting angrier, the time could have been better spent trying to patch things up. Remember the old adage: Never go to sleep angry.

People who storm out are often the ones who are intimidated by the fight or those who are controlling aggressors. Just try to remember that fights can generally be neutralized if one or both of the participants change their demeanor or their approach. A conversation, albeit a tense one, can replace the fight that was just happening. Try to remember that the other person feels just as angry and hot-tempered as you do -- even if you are in the right.

New tactic: Rather than storming out, try reclaiming your cool by taking a step back, taking a deep breath, and asking your opponent to slow down. All these things will give both of you a moment to regain control of your comportment, and you can still deal with the issues at hand immediately. If you need to leave the scene, inform your combatant that you need to step out to cool off.

a good, clean fight
When you engage in a fight, you must be considerate and controlled. You should try as much as possible to understand the opposing point of view and you should consider whether your words will make matters better or worse. Most importantly, know that sometimes you have to swallow your pride -- I know, it’s hard. It’s sometimes better just to let things go. Do your best to avoid these seven fighting techniques, and you'll sail more smoothly in the future]]> http://www.talksfu.ca/forum/discussion/714/why-did-the-chicken-cross-the-road Sun, 03 Dec 2006 03:08:44 +0000 CollegeDude 714@/forum/discussions

DR. PHIL:

The problem we have here is that this chicken won’t realize that he

must first deal with the problem on “THIS” side of the road before it

goes after the problem on the “OTHER SIDE” of the road. What we need

to do is help him realize how stupid he’s acting by not taking on his

“CURRENT” problems before adding “NEW” problems.


OPRAH:

Well, I understand that the chicken is having problems, which is why

he wants to cross this road so bad. So instead of having the chicken

learn from his mistakes and take falls, which is a part of life, I’m

going to give this chicken a car so that he can just drive across the

road and not live his life like the rest of the chickens!


GEORGE W BUSH:

We don’t really care why the chicken crossed the road. We just want

to know if the chicken is on our side of the road, or not. The

chicken is either against us, or for us. There is no middle ground here.



COLIN POWELL:

Now to the left of the screen, you can clearly see the satellite

image of the chicken crossing the road.



ANDERSON COOPER/CNN:

We have reason to believe there is a chicken, but we have not yet

been allowed to have access to the other side of the road.

NANCY GRACE:

That chicken crossed the road because he’s GUILTY! You can see it in

his eyes and the way he walks.



JOHN KERRY:

Although I voted to let the chicken cross the road, I am now against

it! It was the wrong road to cross, and I was misled about the

chicken’s intentions. I am for it now, and will remain against it.

PAT BUCHANAN:

To steal the job of a decent, hardworking American.



MARTHA STEWART:

No one called me to warn me which way that chicken was going. I had a

standing order at the Farmer’s Market to sell my eggs when the price

dropped to a certain level. No little bird gave me any insider

information.


DR SEUSS:

Did the chicken cross the road? Did he cross it with a toad?

Yes, the chicken crossed the road, but why it crossed I’ve not been

told.



ERNEST HEMINGWAY:

To die in the rain. Alone.



JERRY FALWELL:

Because the chicken was gay! Can’t you people see the plain truth in

front of your face? The chicken was going to the “other side.” That’s

why they call it the “other side. Yes, my friends, that chicken is

gay. And if you eat that chicken, you will become gay too. I say we

boycott all chickens until we sort out this abomination that the

liberal media whitewashes with seemingly harmless phrases like “the

other side.” That chicken should not be free to cross the road. It’s

as plain and simple as that!



GRANDPA:

In my day we didn’t ask why the chicken crossed the road. Somebody

told us the chicken crossed the road, and that was good enough.



BARBARA WALTERS:

Isn’t that interesting? In a few moments, we will be listening to the

chicken tell, for the first time, the heart warming story of how it

experienced a serious case of molting, and went on to accomplish its

life long dream of crossing the road.



JOHN LENNON:

Imagine all the chickens in the world crossing roads together – in

peace.



ARISTOTLE:

It is the nature of chickens to cross the road.



BILL GATES:

I have just released eChicken2006, which will not only Cross roads,

but will lay eggs, file your important documents, and balance your

check book. Internet explorer is an integral part of eChicken. The

Platform is much more stable and will never cra…#@&&^( C …..

reboot.



ALBERT EINSTEIN:

Did the chicken really cross the road, or did the road move beneath

the chicken?



BILL CLINTON:

I did not cross the road with THAT chicken. What is your definition

of chicken?


AL GORE:

I invented the chicken!


COLONEL SANDERS:

Did I miss one?]]> http://www.talksfu.ca/forum/discussion/679/hows-the-studying-for-finals-going Thu, 30 Nov 2006 16:21:30 +0000 TiNgLu_SiNgH 679@/forum/discussions http://www.talksfu.ca/forum/discussion/721/question-4-the-inorganic-chemists Mon, 04 Dec 2006 03:31:06 +0000 luxferre 721@/forum/discussions
If not... is there something I can mix up or wutever at home?

I got some.. um... newly acquired items to clean :tongue:]]> http://www.talksfu.ca/forum/discussion/555/what-club-are-you-in Sun, 19 Nov 2006 06:02:29 +0000 Djiban 555@/forum/discussions http://www.talksfu.ca/forum/discussion/569/suggestion-food-forum Wed, 22 Nov 2006 01:03:39 +0000 luxferre 569@/forum/discussions
for fellow food fanatics lik me :shade:]]> http://www.talksfu.ca/forum/discussion/735/article-boost-your-energy-levels Tue, 05 Dec 2006 11:37:49 +0000 PoliChic87 735@/forum/discussions
Boost Your Energy Levels

If you woke up last Tuesday feeling tired and are still feeling run down. Everyone has at least once felt too tired to get up, dress, drive, work, and come back to the house ten hours later after performing a variety of functions, only to continue cleaning up, filing, cooking, and execute all those routine activities we have learned to complete on a daily basis. But although you tried to sleep your tiredness away, the feeling of fatigue has prevailed and you are now in a worse state than ever before. If everything seems to be fine on the physical level, apart from the low energy levels you have been experiencing, then follow these tips and boost your energy to skyrocket heights.

People that experience a low energy period usually comfort themselves by resorting to sleep and adding extra hours of bed time in their attempt to find their lost energy somewhere in-between their bed sheets and covers. This is usually not the right strategy. If you have maintained a steady sleeping schedule, prior to this recent development, which suited your needs perfectly, the extra sleep you are planning to have will not help you increase your energy levels and take control of your life again. On the contrary, if you decide to sleep when your body does not need that extra sleeping time you are increasing the feelings of being tired and lethargic. Thus, instead of sleeping, try to exercise. Energy needs energy to be produced. By performing simple exercises, like walking or swimming, your body will increase its metabolism which will help you get your energy levels again up. Try introducing exercising as part of your daily routine and you will be witnessing a tremendous change in your energy levels as well as mind awareness.

Do not forget to consume fluids and particularly water. Additionally, by adding more vegetables, complex carbohydrates and proteins into your diet, you will see your energy increase and you will feel much better about yourself and be actually healthier than before.

Another tactic to boost your energy levels is to start working on something you have been postponing for a long time, but would love to see yourself doing. Hobbies, interests, volunteer work or house improvement projects can help you get rid of boredom, which can be a very good reason why you feel the way you do. You can invest time in doing things that are fun and relax your body and mind. Going camping, fishing, playing with your or the neighbor's kids, can assist you increase your recently dropped energy bucket and become involved again.

Most importantly, you have to get started. If you begin doing something that can take you away from that couch or bed, you will witness the difference in your energy levels instantly. Do not procrastinate. Act today and boost your energy levels back up where they belong.]]> http://www.talksfu.ca/forum/discussion/728/brainstorming-way-to-be-successful Mon, 04 Dec 2006 22:23:17 +0000 CollegeDude 728@/forum/discussions
- Noah :beer:]]> http://www.talksfu.ca/forum/discussion/729/chem-121 Mon, 04 Dec 2006 22:38:15 +0000 toast 729@/forum/discussions
Wana help each other out now? I'm not sleeping until i figure out how to do most of it... right now, I'm beginning to think the answer key is incorrect...]]> http://www.talksfu.ca/forum/discussion/693/fucking-cold-winter Sat, 02 Dec 2006 02:50:56 +0000 Karmagrl 693@/forum/discussions
Nevertheless, to be on the safe side he told his tribe that the winter was indeed going to be cold and that the members of the village should collect firewood to be prepared. But being a practical leader, after several days he got an idea. He went to the phone booth, called the National Weather Service and asked, "Is the coming winter going to be cold?"

"It looks like this winter is going to be quite cold," the meteorologist at the weather service responded.

So the Chief went back to his people and told them to collect even more firewood in order to be prepared. A week later he called the National Weather Service again. "Does it still look like it is going to be a very cold winter?"

"Yes," the man at National Weather Service again replied, "it's going to be a very cold winter."

The Chief again went back to his people and ordered them to collect every scrap of firewood they could find. Two weeks later the Chief called the National Weather Service again. "Are you absolutely sure that the winter is going to be very cold?"

"Absolutely," the man replied. "It's looking more and more like it is going to be one of the coldest winters ever."

"How can you be so sure?" the Chief asked.

The weatherman replied, "The Indians are collecting firewood like crazy."]]> http://www.talksfu.ca/forum/discussion/703/need-advice-on-my-courseload Sat, 02 Dec 2006 15:52:05 +0000 intr3pid 703@/forum/discussions
I will be taking BISC 101, CHEM 122, PHYS 101, MATH 155 and ENGL 104 next semester (might replace English 104 with Chem 126). Can anyone comment on the workload of these courses? Will i be overloading myself with no free time? Advice iis appreciated.

thanks!]]> http://www.talksfu.ca/forum/discussion/720/macm-101-assignment Mon, 04 Dec 2006 00:50:09 +0000 Pixie 720@/forum/discussions