I long has this theory that it is peer pressure and parental oversight that prevented White girls from having an Asian boyfriend. I believe that it is often peer and parental disapproval that break up any prospective inter-racial relationship. Believe it or not, xenophobia and prejudice against Asians and other ethnic minorities still exists today. All the retorics about multiculturalism and diversity are distractions from the racism right on our door step.
We constitute 39.73% of Vancouver's population and you found that few of that 39.73% are attractive!?
Haha, thanks. By the way, Asians have their shares of bad boys. For example, everytime you open a newspaper and you read a report on street racing. Guess who's racing?
Damnit Triple, this is just an anti-Asian stereotype yet to be verified by any reputable scientific research. This is no better than Craniometry and Eugenics.
Woot! Now that you mention it, what did you parents and friends say about having an Asian boyfriend? If they are negative about it, my theory will be strengthened.
I don't have experience in dating an Asian guy, but I would imagine that his parents would have a bigger problem with it than mine would. When friends of mine were in interracial relationships, the Asian parents typically made a huge deal about it. Generalization, but maybe it's a cultural thing.
And as for the 'few that are attractive'....that all depends on your taste. I'm sure I've seen attractive Asian men, but they're attractive to people to are attracted to that culture....if that makes sense! I'm just physically attracted to a certain type of person, and typically that personal is Caucasian just because of physical characteristics. It doesn't mean that Asian men I've seen aren't attractive, but I'm not attracted to them.... Geez, I'm even confusing myself! Moral of the story is that you can't help who you are attracted to!
Nicole: I dont think you should say you aren't attracted to any race in particular.
Race is such a subtle concept, what happens if you ever meet a guy you fall in love with and it turns out hes half asian but looks white for the most part? Are you then not able to be attracted to him because hes half asian? ________________________________________________________________ Student: I just honestly haven't found that many asian guys attractive to me, you forgot to address my point of the fact I like bigger, taller guys. I heart guys over 6 feet with broad shoulders :-*. I have only seen a handful of asian guys I thought were attractive. I really like guys who are rough around the edges too.
Consider the fact I don't have any asian friends outside of school, so I don't often hang around asian people. Also, no asian guys have ever approached me in bars.
I personally, don't consider street racing bad boy, as more fucking stupid. Like those two guys from india killing Irene Thorpe.
It's not a conscious decision to not be attracted to another race and if it comes off as a racist comment, my apologies, because that's not my intention at all. It's not that I'm completely barring off any guy from a different culture...it's just that I'm typically not physically attracted to them. If I met a great guy I'm sure that could be overlooked (I'm not that shallow!) but isn't physical attraction the first indicator? I'm coming off as a huge bitch.
I thought you meant you were saying you will never be attracted to anyone who isn't white.
White guys are mainly the guys I found attractive, but mentally I don't close myself off. I was more trying to make a point when you get to people who are half white doesn't the distinction become a bit distorted?
It's not bitchy at all, it's who you found physically attractive which I firmly believe is an unconscious decision, most of the time.
I just have friends sometimes who say stuff like, "I only like white guys", which does come off racist, because if you don't choose who youre attracted to, you never know who you could be attracted to. It would be more accurate to say I mainly am attracted to white guys, which in my case I would have to agree, but I leave the possibility open in my speech cause you never know really.
I think part of it may be culturally imbued, when you grow up around a certain race mainly, you develop subconscious attractions to that race with your interactions of them, and how you see them. I grew up in a town where there were only white people, and some natives. I had never seen a black or asian person ever except on TV until I came here.
Of course physical attraction is our "first impression", but I think it also has to do with the fact that culturally, staying within the same ethnicity as yourself allows you to relate to the person on a whole different level. Growing up, I lived in New Brunswick, so my family was probably the only asian family in Fredericton. Anyhow, as I got older, I vowed to break tradition and be with a white girl, just 'cause.
When I moved out to Toronto, and started talking to more women here and there, I just found that I could talk to asian girls about more stuff than I could to white girls. They can understand the asian mentality, even though I consider myself rather white-washed, there's still that unwashable asian side of me. I wouldn't say it's a preference that I end up dating asian girls, it just happens that way. I find that there are women within many ethnicities to be attractive......except eskimoes......
The only Asian Guy White Girl couples I've seen are with White-washed Asian guys decked out in Hollister or something like that. Very "American boy" kinda look with the spiky hair
You mean the Asian version of this guy? I don't know the slang for it.
I don't think Guidos are asian. Infact the Guido stereotype derives from Italians.
That's why I said Asian version. I am quite aware Guido is a derogatory slang for Italians.
randomuser;31657 said:
however if a guy did ever hit me he would find his car / truck keyed up and the windows all broken the next day
Wouldn't it be easier to have him arrested for assault? Not to mention he would be publicly disgraced, along with a misdemeanor added to his criminal record limiting further employment in the future.
JayDub;31664 said:
Oh, and if a girl, or a guy for that matter, keyed my truck and smashed my windows, I'd f*cking kill them.
Don't get too tied up with your properties, it's just another weakness to be exploited.
Interesting, extremely interesting are the reasons you guys and girls are giving. I guess many white girls are attracted to attributes (ex: broad shoulder, tall, and big) not found in Asian guys. Like wise and to even the score, I tend to avoid attributes that could be commonly found in certain ethnic groups.
randomuser;31639 said:
Student: I just honestly haven't found that many asian guys attractive to me, you forgot to address my point of the fact I like bigger, taller guys. I heart guys over 6 feet with broad shoulders
There are Asian guys who are over 6ft with broad shoulder.
*Sarcasm* For example, me. Ok fine, I don't have a broad shoulder.
nicole;31640 said:
It's not a conscious decision to not be attracted to another race and if it comes off as a racist comment, my apologies, because that's not my intention at all.
It is alright. I too got personal preference of my own that would pretty much exclude a couple of the world's ethnic groups. Also, thanks for sharing your thought and debunking my theory. I often throught that parents and friends play a great role in discouraging interracial relation, especially if the girl is white.
Insatiable;31682 said:
Might there be any legal repercussions?
As long as you are not caught, you are scotch free.
Agentbob;31685 said:
I knew Japanese men are particularly dominant over their wife, but beating them? Shit, that's some harsh cultural..."traits".
Well, it is the 21st century right now and the Japanese people still give a big fuss over the possibility of having a Empress in their otherwise pointless, I mean constitutional monarchy.
Also, there's the whole "if you press charges, so will I" approach. Being a felon and known woman-beater would be enough to make him just eat the repair costs and move on. :P
The most racist people I've ever met are uniformly Asian immigrants. People who were born here tend to not care, but those who immigrated usually have very strict ideas about who their kids can date. We tend to give his a bit of a pass as a "cultural issue," but it's just plain old racism at its core. I've known three different white-asian couples that have broken up due to pressure from immigrant parents who only want their son/daughter (usually daughter) to be with another Asian. I've never heard about one case of white parents having a problem with their kid dating a non-white guy/girl. That's just anecdotal, though.
All this "rich white people" bashing is retarded, though. Perhaps if we lived in Alabama it would be true, but here? I honestly haven't seen it. I dated a black chick for 6 months, and neither she nor I ever encountered any negativity. I've known girls who only date black guys, or who have dated brown and asian dudes. I've know asian girls who only date white guys. Never once have I seen problems from any demographic other than recently landed immigrants.
That said, my last girlfriend was Asian, and her parents were immigrants, and totally awesome. So, there's that.
Asian parents usually don't mind if their son has a white girlfriend. But white parents usually will mind if their daughter has a non-white boyfriend.
I think there is still some idea that "white" people are of a higher class.
I think it's more they want their grand child to look like them thing going on. I'm sure some asian parents would frown upon their asian daughter having a white child (this happens a lot, does anyone know what her parents thought if you know someone in this situation?). Or a black woman having a white child etc...
White Father + Black Mother = White (mixed) child 99.999% of the time due to recessive genes
My point was, how would the black family feel? I'd imagine a bit hostile to the idea. I was trying to prove that its not a white is better thing, although I'm not denying racism exists.
every black/white mix kid ive ever seen does not look white, they have more physical features that u see in black ppl and the skin color is definitely not white, ranges from light to dark brown.
Was the father or mother black or white, there is a big difference in the end result. I don't know what families you have seen but when the father is white the child looks pretty white most of the time.
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And as for the 'few that are attractive'....that all depends on your taste. I'm sure I've seen attractive Asian men, but they're attractive to people to are attracted to that culture....if that makes sense! I'm just physically attracted to a certain type of person, and typically that personal is Caucasian just because of physical characteristics. It doesn't mean that Asian men I've seen aren't attractive, but I'm not attracted to them....
Geez, I'm even confusing myself! Moral of the story is that you can't help who you are attracted to!
Race is such a subtle concept, what happens if you ever meet a guy you fall in love with and it turns out hes half asian but looks white for the most part? Are you then not able to be attracted to him because hes half asian?
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Student: I just honestly haven't found that many asian guys attractive to me, you forgot to address my point of the fact I like bigger, taller guys. I heart guys over 6 feet with broad shoulders :-*. I have only seen a handful of asian guys I thought were attractive. I really like guys who are rough around the edges too.
Consider the fact I don't have any asian friends outside of school, so I don't often hang around asian people. Also, no asian guys have ever approached me in bars.
I personally, don't consider street racing bad boy, as more fucking stupid. Like those two guys from india killing Irene Thorpe.
I'm coming off as a huge bitch.
White guys are mainly the guys I found attractive, but mentally I don't close myself off. I was more trying to make a point when you get to people who are half white doesn't the distinction become a bit distorted?
It's not bitchy at all, it's who you found physically attractive which I firmly believe is an unconscious decision, most of the time.
I just have friends sometimes who say stuff like, "I only like white guys", which does come off racist, because if you don't choose who youre attracted to, you never know who you could be attracted to. It would be more accurate to say I mainly am attracted to white guys, which in my case I would have to agree, but I leave the possibility open in my speech cause you never know really.
I think part of it may be culturally imbued, when you grow up around a certain race mainly, you develop subconscious attractions to that race with your interactions of them, and how you see them. I grew up in a town where there were only white people, and some natives. I had never seen a black or asian person ever except on TV until I came here.
When I moved out to Toronto, and started talking to more women here and there, I just found that I could talk to asian girls about more stuff than I could to white girls. They can understand the asian mentality, even though I consider myself rather white-washed, there's still that unwashable asian side of me. I wouldn't say it's a preference that I end up dating asian girls, it just happens that way. I find that there are women within many ethnicities to be attractive......except eskimoes......
however if a guy did ever hit me he would find his car / truck keyed up and the windows all broken the next day
Oh, and if a girl, or a guy for that matter, keyed my truck and smashed my windows, I'd f*cking kill them.
and as you can see above men love their wheels ^
that carrie underwood song before he cheats is so good for this
It'd be nice if you practice a little reading comprehension.
id take a louisville slugger to both head lights, slash a hole in all four tires
*Sarcasm* For example, me. Ok fine, I don't have a broad shoulder. It is alright. I too got personal preference of my own that would pretty much exclude a couple of the world's ethnic groups. Also, thanks for sharing your thought and debunking my theory. I often throught that parents and friends play a great role in discouraging interracial relation, especially if the girl is white. As long as you are not caught, you are scotch free. Well, it is the 21st century right now and the Japanese people still give a big fuss over the possibility of having a Empress in their otherwise pointless, I mean constitutional monarchy.
I think there is still some idea that "white" people are of a higher class.
All this "rich white people" bashing is retarded, though. Perhaps if we lived in Alabama it would be true, but here? I honestly haven't seen it. I dated a black chick for 6 months, and neither she nor I ever encountered any negativity. I've known girls who only date black guys, or who have dated brown and asian dudes. I've know asian girls who only date white guys. Never once have I seen problems from any demographic other than recently landed immigrants.
That said, my last girlfriend was Asian, and her parents were immigrants, and totally awesome. So, there's that.
My point was, how would the black family feel? I'd imagine a bit hostile to the idea. I was trying to prove that its not a white is better thing, although I'm not denying racism exists.