Asian parents usually don't mind if their son has a white girlfriend. But white parents usually will mind if their daughter has a non-white boyfriend.
I think there is still some idea that "white" people are of a higher class.
Not always. It's always usually the Asian side of the family that objects to interracial dating. I have never heard of a white family objecting to a non-white, with blacks being a exception (in some cases).
Also, an Asian family objecting a white boy/girlfriend doesn't mean it's xenophobic/racism at play, it's also because they fear the whole "culture clash" issue that's bound to come up. I have friends that are dating someone outside of their race, and the issue of culture/language/customs are always talked about.
We've got handy word for that, called "racism." Sorry, but I can't stand this thinking, where when white people do it it's bigotry, but when non-whites do it it's "cultural issues." No, it's racism in both cases. If their narrow little minds are a result of coming from a different part of the world, then so be it. But that doesn't make it any less repulsive.
Not always. It's always usually the Asian side of the family that objects to interracial dating. I have never heard of a white family objecting to a non-white, with blacks being a exception (in some cases).
Are you sure? I read before that having a white (or non-Asian) spouse is considered a badge of honor in some Asian society in the past.
Also, an Asian family objecting a white boy/girlfriend doesn't mean it's xenophobic/racism at play, it's also because they fear the whole "culture clash" issue that's bound to come up.
That is racism.
Look, white folks who refuse to vote for Obama because he is black is being ridiculed on a biblical scale on television. Now imagine a white couple telling their daughter that they will not allow her to date other races for fear of "cultural clash." The white couple will become the new town idiot.
Also, what is so distinctive about white or asian culture that they fear will lead to a so call cultural clash? For example, we Asians have a thing for respecting our ancestor, and don't some white folks display their knight ancestor's suit of armor proudly in the living room? Also, Chinese have Chinese New Years, but who doesn't like free money?
Look, you give me one thing about Asian culture that whites culture find repulsive and I will turn on my mute button.
Morro;31745 said:
We've got handy word for that, called "racism." Sorry, but I can't stand this thinking, where when white people do it it's bigotry, but when non-whites do it it's "cultural issues."
Great argument Morro, I somewhat elaborate your position above.
Also, what is so distinctive about white or asian culture that they fear will lead to a so call cultural clash?
It isn't so much of a cultural clash as to the idea of cultural preservation. The segregation of racial relationship to homogeneous is largely for the thinking that culture is preserved when two person in a relationship is from the same ethnic background.
Interracial relationship leading marriage erodes the cultural distinctiveness as one adopts each other's ideology. Same when communities are largely multicultural and cohabited by various ethnic groups.
In any case, East Asians aren't strict as South Asian.
JayDub;31753 said:
Eating Monkeys and Dogs. Point, set and match.
If you grew up eating monkeys, dogs, and even crickets, you will grow quite accustom to it.
Again, it's your perspective at play here. Choice of food is determinate on culture, Israelis and Palestinians do not eat pork, and East Indians do not eat beef. Why? That's for you to find out, I'm not explaining why. I will explain why North Americans eat what they eat.
North American can forgo eating insects or household pets to survive because you have grown accustom to the availability of resources to raise livestocks.
eww dogs and crickets :| the least that u can do is eat cats cats are probably the gayest kind pet possible
How are cats gay? For one I don't believe most cats are homosexuals, and you using the word 'gay' to describe them shows you as lacking the intelligence to come up with a decent insult.
Further, even if I did agree with you using the word 'gay' like you did, I think shitsu's and poodle's and other ugly little dogs are way 'gayer' than any cat.
It isn't so much of a cultural clash as to the idea of cultural preservation. In any case, East Asians aren't strict as South Asian.
I must agree with you mrbubbles.
I would date White guys and other Asian guys (non-Chinese) but to tell you the truth, I wouldn't marry them. It's personal preference, not racism.
I mean, I wouldn't want to marry a Korean / Vietnamese / Japanese / Cambodian / Malaysian guy because their culture is vastly different from Chinese, not to mention the language barrier between the parents, and the traditions... etc.
Unless both me and the other person were 2nd generation, our families wouldn't understand the cultural impact it would have on the future children.
My kids however, it would be totally different, because they'd be 2nd Gen and We 1st Gens would have a different concept of "culture" as parents, then OUR parents did. I'd let my kids marry anyone they want as long as they're not serial killers or whatever, lol. We'd understand.
How are cats gay? For one I don't believe most cats are homosexuals, and you using the word 'gay' to describe them shows you as lacking the intelligence to come up with a decent insult.
Further, even if I did agree with you using the word 'gay' like you did, I think shitsu's and poodle's and other ugly little dogs are way 'gayer' than any cat.
Fantastic, it's pet bashing time now. Been in Yaletown much? Plenty of toy dog yuppie conformist there with their 10 feet leash. It's sickening. Then again, it's just my opinion, Lazyguy, and yours. If anyone found my opinion insulting, that's too bad, it's just another inferiority I can crush you with.
Why are Caucasians so scared of trying any food that isn't their own? I know people that have never eaten Sushi before and never will. I know this doesn't pertain to everyone, but a good bunch of Caucasian people I know.
You can't say that we're Asian so we eat Asian food. I'm not Japanese, and Chinese food is really different, but we'd still eat/try it without hesitation.
I haven't known ANY Asian person that has had trouble eating Caucasian / European food.
How are cats gay? For one I don't believe most cats are homosexuals, and you using the word 'gay' to describe them shows you as lacking the intelligence to come up with a decent insult.
Further, even if I did agree with you using the word 'gay' like you did, I think shitsu's and poodle's and other ugly little dogs are way 'gayer' than any cat.
LOL hahahahahahahaha u cant be serious, of course i meant that all cats are homosexuals
I would date White guys and other Asian guys (non-Chinese) but to tell you the truth, I wouldn't marry them. It's personal preference, not racism.
I mean, I wouldn't want to marry a Korean / Vietnamese / Japanese / Cambodian / Malaysian guy because their culture is vastly different from Chinese, not to mention the language barrier between the parents, and the traditions... etc.
That depends how attached you are to preserving your culture. Some people just don't give a shit. Not to change your perspective, but marrying someone should be for love and only love above all else, even though it isn't the case historically before the 20th century and throughout most of the world today.
vonnie;31765 said:
Ohohoh, question.
Why are Caucasians so scared of trying any food that isn't their own? I know people that have never eaten Sushi before and never will. I know this doesn't pertain to everyone, but a good bunch of Caucasian people I know.
You can't say that we're Asian so we eat Asian food. I'm not Japanese, and Chinese food is really different, but we'd still eat/try it without hesitation.
I haven't known ANY Asian person that has had trouble eating Caucasian / European food.
Again, it boils down to culture.
From my quote
North American can forgo eating insects or household pets to survive because you have grown accustom to the availability of resources to raise livestocks.
I'll add to that resources to cook food, why eat it raw when you have the resources to cook it?
How do you feel about eating worms (clean nutritious ones)? Their perspective is no different to yours if you won't swallow worms. Besides, sashimi is a ripoff, buy the salmon and go home and cut it into slices, dip wasabi and chow.
Why are Caucasians so scared of trying any food that isn't their own? I know people that have never eaten Sushi before and never will. I know this doesn't pertain to everyone, but a good bunch of Caucasian people I know.
You can't say that we're Asian so we eat Asian food. I'm not Japanese, and Chinese food is really different, but we'd still eat/try it without hesitation.
I haven't known ANY Asian person that has had trouble eating Caucasian / European food.
-tried Indian food, didn't like it -tried Chinese food, didn't like it -tried Iranian food, didn't like it (this is a problem, since my sister married an Iranian guy)
randomuser;31759 said:
How are cats gay? For one I don't believe most cats are homosexuals, and you using the word 'gay' to describe them shows you as lacking the intelligence to come up with a decent insult.
Further, even if I did agree with you using the word 'gay' like you did, I think shitsu's and poodle's and other ugly little dogs are way 'gayer' than any cat.
-tried Indian food, didn't like it -tried Chinese food, didn't like it -tried Iranian food, didn't like it (this is a problem, since my sister married an Iranian guy)
Your taste buds sure suck. Or you have been eating the wrong kind of Chinese, Indian, and Iranian food.
LOL hahahahahahahaha u cant be serious, of course i meant that all cats are homosexuals
I'm sure you already know, but what she's saying is that "gay" is not a synonym for "stupid" or "lame" or whatever you meant. It also annoys me the hell out of me when people use the word "gay" as an insult...
I dunno, maybe you meant "cats are probably the happiest kind pet possible."
Cats are definitely not the happiest, they are very stuck up. But in the words of Eric Idle:
The world today seems absolutely crackers, With nuclear bombs to blow us all sky high. There's fools and idiots sitting on the trigger. It's depressing and it's senseless, and that's why... I like Chinese. I like Chinese. They only come up to your knees, Yet they're always friendly, and they're ready to please.
I like Chinese. I like Chinese. There's nine hundred million of them in the world today. You'd better learn to like them; that's what I say.
I like Chinese. I like Chinese. They come from a long way overseas, But they're cute and they're cuddly, and they're ready to please.
I like Chinese food. The waiters never are rude. Think of the many things they've done to impress. There's Maoism, Taoism, I Ching, and Chess.
So I like Chinese. I like Chinese. I like their tiny little trees, Their Zen, their ping-pong, their yin, and yang-ese.
I like Chinese thought, The wisdom that Confucious taught. If Darwin is anything to shout about, The Chinese will survive us all without any doubt.
So, I like Chinese. I like Chinese. They only come up to your knees, Yet they're wise and they're witty, and they're ready to please.
All together.
Wo ai zhongguo ren. Wo ai zhongguo ren. Wo ai zhongguo ren. Ni hao ma; ni hao ma; ni hao ma; zaijien!
I like Chinese. I like Chinese. Their food is guaranteed to please, A fourteen, a seven, a nine, and lychees.
I like Chinese. I like Chinese. I like their tiny little trees, Their Zen, their ping-pong, their yin, and yang-ese.
I like Chinese. I like Chinese. They only come up to your knees...
I would date White guys and other Asian guys (non-Chinese) but to tell you the truth, I wouldn't marry them. It's personal preference, not racism.
I mean, I wouldn't want to marry a Korean / Vietnamese / Japanese / Cambodian / Malaysian guy because their culture is vastly different from Chinese, not to mention the language barrier between the parents, and the traditions... etc.
So you would give the non-chinese guy a false hope of having a future with you? You'd squeeze all his time and money dry and then leave him for someone else just because he's not chinese? Cruel way of thinking, but I guess many girls think that way.
So you would give the non-chinese guy a false hope of having a future with you? You'd squeeze all his time and money dry and then leave him for someone else just because he's not chinese? Cruel way of thinking, but I guess many girls think that way.
Haven't gone on a relationship have you? Having a relationship is for the sake of having a relationship, it doesn't have to go anywhere. Not every relationship leads to marriage, even though the road to marriage starts with a date.
Haven't gone on a relationship have you? Having a relationship is for the sake of having a relationship, it doesn't have to go anywhere. Not every relationship leads to marriage, even though the road to marriage starts with a date.
Having a relationship should certainly not be for the sake of having a relationship, unless both parties have a mutual agreement on just playing around from the start. I'm not sure about other people, but I know I don't like to start something with no future.
Why are Caucasians so scared of trying any food that isn't their own? I know people that have never eaten Sushi before and never will. I know this doesn't pertain to everyone, but a good bunch of Caucasian people I know.
You can't say that we're Asian so we eat Asian food. I'm not Japanese, and Chinese food is really different, but we'd still eat/try it without hesitation.
I haven't known ANY Asian person that has had trouble eating Caucasian / European food.
I actually don't know any Caucasian who is scared of trying different food. Maybe I'm friends with different people, haha.
I would choose Japanese or Thai over European/North American food any day, but I do feel more comfortable in a European/North American restaurant. Maybe the people you've met are just a little scared to be out of their comfort zone in that sense.
I'm scared of trying different food, I'm scared of a lot of food whether its 'ethnically white or other'. I'm very unadventurous when it comes to food, I didn't try sushi until like a year ago. I'm sure if I was raised eating these foods they'd be normal to me and I'd be afraid of trying other foods.
We've got handy word for that, called "racism." Sorry, but I can't stand this thinking, where when white people do it it's bigotry, but when non-whites do it it's "cultural issues." No, it's racism in both cases. If their narrow little minds are a result of coming from a different part of the world, then so be it. But that doesn't make it any less repulsive.
In no way did I mean to imply that kind of mentality. I'm not saying racism is an exclusive thing and sorry if my post comes off like that.
When I say culture clash, I don't mean a gang war or verbal/physical abuse. I mean a different cultural perception in ways things are approached. Language barriers, or having to understand/adapt to new cultural patterns for example. Just because you're having trouble understanding other cultures doesn't mean you're a bigot or racist.
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he had 2 babies with 2 different white chicks lol
Also, an Asian family objecting a white boy/girlfriend doesn't mean it's xenophobic/racism at play, it's also because they fear the whole "culture clash" issue that's bound to come up. I have friends that are dating someone outside of their race, and the issue of culture/language/customs are always talked about.
Look, white folks who refuse to vote for Obama because he is black is being ridiculed on a biblical scale on television. Now imagine a white couple telling their daughter that they will not allow her to date other races for fear of "cultural clash." The white couple will become the new town idiot.
Also, what is so distinctive about white or asian culture that they fear will lead to a so call cultural clash? For example, we Asians have a thing for respecting our ancestor, and don't some white folks display their knight ancestor's suit of armor proudly in the living room? Also, Chinese have Chinese New Years, but who doesn't like free money?
Look, you give me one thing about Asian culture that whites culture find repulsive and I will turn on my mute button. Great argument Morro, I somewhat elaborate your position above.
Interracial relationship leading marriage erodes the cultural distinctiveness as one adopts each other's ideology. Same when communities are largely multicultural and cohabited by various ethnic groups.
In any case, East Asians aren't strict as South Asian. If you grew up eating monkeys, dogs, and even crickets, you will grow quite accustom to it.
the least that u can do is eat cats
cats are probably the gayest kind pet possible
North American can forgo eating insects or household pets to survive because you have grown accustom to the availability of resources to raise livestocks.
Further, even if I did agree with you using the word 'gay' like you did, I think shitsu's and poodle's and other ugly little dogs are way 'gayer' than any cat.
I would date White guys and other Asian guys (non-Chinese) but to tell you the truth, I wouldn't marry them. It's personal preference, not racism.
I mean, I wouldn't want to marry a Korean / Vietnamese / Japanese / Cambodian / Malaysian guy because their culture is vastly different from Chinese, not to mention the language barrier between the parents, and the traditions... etc.
Unless both me and the other person were 2nd generation, our families wouldn't understand the cultural impact it would have on the future children.
My kids however, it would be totally different, because they'd be 2nd Gen and We 1st Gens would have a different concept of "culture" as parents, then OUR parents did. I'd let my kids marry anyone they want as long as they're not serial killers or whatever, lol. We'd understand.
I hope that made sense.
Why are Caucasians so scared of trying any food that isn't their own? I know people that have never eaten Sushi before and never will. I know this doesn't pertain to everyone, but a good bunch of Caucasian people I know.
You can't say that we're Asian so we eat Asian food. I'm not Japanese, and Chinese food is really different, but we'd still eat/try it without hesitation.
I haven't known ANY Asian person that has had trouble eating Caucasian / European food.
u cant be serious, of course i meant that all cats are homosexuals
From my quote I'll add to that resources to cook food, why eat it raw when you have the resources to cook it?
How do you feel about eating worms (clean nutritious ones)? Their perspective is no different to yours if you won't swallow worms. Besides, sashimi is a ripoff, buy the salmon and go home and cut it into slices, dip wasabi and chow.
-tried Chinese food, didn't like it
-tried Iranian food, didn't like it (this is a problem, since my sister married an Iranian guy) oh for fuck's sake....
Haha.. just kidding. Go watch Russell Peters.
I dunno, maybe you meant "cats are probably the happiest kind pet possible."
The world today seems absolutely crackers,
With nuclear bombs to blow us all sky high.
There's fools and idiots sitting on the trigger.
It's depressing and it's senseless, and that's why...
I like Chinese.
I like Chinese.
They only come up to your knees,
Yet they're always friendly, and they're ready to please.
I like Chinese.
I like Chinese.
There's nine hundred million of them in the world today.
You'd better learn to like them; that's what I say.
I like Chinese.
I like Chinese.
They come from a long way overseas,
But they're cute and they're cuddly, and they're ready to please.
I like Chinese food.
The waiters never are rude.
Think of the many things they've done to impress.
There's Maoism, Taoism, I Ching, and Chess.
So I like Chinese.
I like Chinese.
I like their tiny little trees,
Their Zen, their ping-pong, their yin, and yang-ese.
I like Chinese thought,
The wisdom that Confucious taught.
If Darwin is anything to shout about,
The Chinese will survive us all without any doubt.
So, I like Chinese.
I like Chinese.
They only come up to your knees,
Yet they're wise and they're witty, and they're ready to please.
All together.
Wo ai zhongguo ren.
Wo ai zhongguo ren.
Wo ai zhongguo ren.
Ni hao ma; ni hao ma; ni hao ma; zaijien!
I like Chinese.
I like Chinese.
Their food is guaranteed to please,
A fourteen, a seven, a nine, and lychees.
I like Chinese.
I like Chinese.
I like their tiny little trees,
Their Zen, their ping-pong, their yin, and yang-ese.
I like Chinese.
I like Chinese.
They only come up to your knees...
I'm not sure about other people, but I know I don't like to start something with no future.
I would choose Japanese or Thai over European/North American food any day, but I do feel more comfortable in a European/North American restaurant. Maybe the people you've met are just a little scared to be out of their comfort zone in that sense.
When I say culture clash, I don't mean a gang war or verbal/physical abuse. I mean a different cultural perception in ways things are approached. Language barriers, or having to understand/adapt to new cultural patterns for example. Just because you're having trouble understanding other cultures doesn't mean you're a bigot or racist.