Having a relationship should certainly not be for the sake of having a relationship, unless both parties have a mutual agreement on just playing around from the start. I'm not sure about other people, but I know I don't like to start something with no future.
You have to go through some relationships to find out what you really want. Plus, when you're in your teens, NOBODY intends to marry the person they're going out with, I can guarantee you that.
Having a relationship should certainly not be for the sake of having a relationship, unless both parties have a mutual agreement on just playing around from the start. I'm not sure about other people, but I know I don't like to start something with no future.
Having a relationship is for having a relationship, should it develop into a serious relationship, great. If you make it clear that you want a serious relationship before the other person even gets to know you, you will kill a lot of opportunity for the person to change their mind from "playing around" to a serious relationship. On the positive side, you do save yourself a lot of time and headache.
vonnie;31785 said:
How are you gonna live when the Chinese and Indian people take over the world? Haha.. just kidding. Go watch Russell Peters.
Those two ethnic group in their respective countries consist of 1/3 of the world populations. I don't like to see them become superpowers but they will. Russell Peters sucks.
randomuser;31834 said:
I'm scared of trying different food, I'm scared of a lot of food whether its 'ethnically white or other'. I'm very unadventurous when it comes to food, I didn't try sushi until like a year ago. I'm sure if I was raised eating these foods they'd be normal to me and I'd be afraid of trying other foods.
You're not missing much. Japanese food is overrated. When you don't know what you're missing out, it's better you don't know, otherwise deciding what's for dinner is a nightmare.
Why is it such an issue to date different races? Geeeesh... and I hate this bullshit about 'culture issues'. Get your head out of your ass. I was talking to a girl about China and she was saying how the immigrants here are more traditional than the Chinese people who live in China! Apparently it's because the people here don't evolve along with the Chinese people in China. So they hold onto what they know from their outdated knowledge of their homeland culture.
I was talking to a girl about China and she was saying how the immigrants here are more traditional than the Chinese people who live in China! Apparently it's because the people here don't evolve along with the Chinese people in China. So they hold onto what they know from their outdated knowledge of their homeland culture.
You should differentiate the mainland people and the non-mainland people. They're quite different.
I don't know about you, but I don't evolve like Pokemon hahaha.
Anyway, ethnic groups outside of their country are interested in preserving their culture. I know a lot of people who are Chinese, but they don't know how to speak any Chinese dialects, or know any of their relatives back home. It's a big issue here for parents whether to raise their children like they would in HK, or to raise them like the Canadian parents here. Our values are totally different, so preservation is a key thing people want to try to do.
callonmeee said:
Compatibility is more based on personality than cultural background.
I can tell you that it's just as important. There are lots of things that can get in the way of being compatible, and cultural background is one of them.
Anyway, ethnic groups outside of their country are interested in preserving their culture. I know a lot of people who are Chinese, but they don't know how to speak any Chinese dialects, or know any of their relatives back home. It's a big issue here for parents whether to raise their children like they would in HK, or to raise them like the Canadian parents here. Our values are totally different, so preservation is a key thing people want to try to do.
I actually find that a bit annoying sometimes, especially when the person refuses to accept his/her own background. For example, a chinese person who doesn't understand chinese at all or pretends not to know any when in fact he does. No matter how good his english skills are, white people will never truly accept him as white (due to looking chinese), and chinese people will also never truly think of him as chinese (due to not understanding any chinese).
I actually find that a bit annoying sometimes, especially when the person refuses to accept his/her own background. For example, a chinese person who doesn't understand chinese at all or pretends not to know any when in fact he does. No matter how good his english skills are, white people will never truly accept him as white (due to looking chinese), and chinese people will also never truly think of him as chinese (due to not understanding any chinese).
Why must you be one or the other? Isn't that just a narrow-minded world view? That you must be able to fit somebody into a specific category. Otherwise you experience cognitive dissonance when you're trying to fit somebody into a nicely wrapped package. I find that even more annoying, personally. Somebody who is exactly like everybody else.
I agree with you here. If you're in a serious exclusive relationship then you're just wasting your time if you are certain that he/she isn't going to be in your future. Cut your losses. It's the best for you and the other person. Stop jerking the other person around. Isn't the purpose of dating supposed to be to find the 'one'?
Why is it such an issue to date different races? Geeeesh... and I hate this bullshit about 'culture issues'. Get your head out of your ass. I was talking to a girl about China and she was saying how the immigrants here are more traditional than the Chinese people who live in China! Apparently it's because the people here don't evolve along with the Chinese people in China. So they hold onto what they know from their outdated knowledge of their homeland culture.
Personally, I love learning about different cultures and experiencing them. I know how I grew up is quite different than quite a few of you on this forum from my understanding. ZOMG two people aren't from the same cultural background... if they live by the same basic human values and have common goals in life, then it shouldn't matter. Compatibility is more based on personality than cultural background. I hate how people are so narrow-minded... I think that essentially the reason this thread was even started was because of the narrow-minded people out there. 'Do white girls dating asian guys' shouldn't be a question that needs to be asked... and that's in my utopia lol.
I find people are afraid of people who are different than them. Afraid of the unknown. What's wrong with dating someone who's different? It may be more a risk than but then, greater the risk the greater the reward.
I don't get this perception of that white people will never understand Asian culture. It seems like that some people consider their culture as superior compared to Canadian culture. I'm not against preserving culture to an extent. But sometimes it goes too far... like restricting who you will/can marry. What's wrong with exposing yourself to other cultures? I'm against closing yourself off to other cultures because you're too busy trying to preserve your own.
My parents don't care if I have a non-Caucasian boyfriend. Whatever makes me happy.
To end on a lighter note, I would love to have half asian babies. They're so damn gorgeous!
I stopped after the bold part just to reply; I've had the same perception too given how my parents (my mom specifically) are.
yeah, basically there are two groups of Asians, CBC, which are your "Hollister" types, who are born here and speak English, and the "Krazn" hair Asians, or "fobs" that have just came here. Sometimes the two types of ASians don't even mix well. But yeah, i guess I mean do white girls go out with the "HOllister" type of Asians lol.
I actually find that a bit annoying sometimes, especially when the person refuses to accept his/her own background. For example, a chinese person who doesn't understand chinese at all or pretends not to know any when in fact he does. No matter how good his english skills are, white people will never truly accept him as white (due to looking chinese), and chinese people will also never truly think of him as chinese (due to not understanding any chinese).
How should someone who is interracial behave? Hard example: Lets say mom is white, dad is asian, child looks somewhere in the middle, and the dad leaves and the child is raised only around white people. Should the child act to whichever race they look more like? Or how or who they are raised with or the lack there of?
How should someone who is interracial behave? Hard example: Lets say mom is white, dad is asian, child looks somewhere in the middle, and the dad leaves and the child is raised only around white people. Should the child act to whichever race they look more like? Or how or who they are raised with or the lack there of?
Asian dad? If white girls dont go out with asians in the first place where do asian dads come from?
Asian dad? If white girls dont go out with asians in the first place where do asian dads come from?
Stop making generalizations. My neighbour is an interracial couple where the man is Asian and the female is Caucasian. One of my friend's parents is in the same scenario as well.
Also, if someone is going to only "accept" someone based on their racial background, they aren't worth hanging around with. Accept them based on the context of their characters. Isn't that what MLK used to say?
EDIT: I don't know if that's sarcasm or not, but whatever.
I find people are afraid of people who are different than them. Afraid of the unknown. What's wrong with dating someone who's different? It may be more a risk than but then, greater the risk the greater the reward.
Stand by a busy street or mall and observe. Familiarity allows a common ground to developed. I'd be hard pressed to find a clique with every continent (besides Antarctica) represented, most crowds are homogeneous in every way possible, right down to the clothing. It isn't fear preventing people from interracial relationship, it's bigotry.
callonmeee;32200 said:
To end on a lighter note, I would love to have half asian babies. They're so damn gorgeous!
Don't press your luck. Ugly interracial babies exist, people just don't mentioned it, mostly out of fear for being labeled a bigot.
kingsleymore;32235 said:
yeah, basically there are two groups of Asians, CBC, which are your "Hollister" types, who are born here and speak English, and the "Krazn" hair Asians, or "fobs" that have just came here. Sometimes the two types of ASians don't even mix well. But yeah, i guess I mean do white girls go out with the "HOllister" type of Asians lol.
Too much generalization there. Stop labeling people, I hate labels.
randomuser;32251 said:
How should someone who is interracial behave? Hard example: Lets say mom is white, dad is asian, child looks somewhere in the middle, and the dad leaves and the child is raised only around white people. Should the child act to whichever race they look more like? Or how or who they are raised with or the lack there of?
What I said must have gone over your head, or you realized it and are agreeing with it.
I'm trying to give that question to the OP to see what he says, and when clearly would not be able to answer it, my point would have been made that racial definitions are useless, we are all the same species. Interracial kids help prove this, how do you label someone who is part of both artificially labelled races and cultures, in the end we are all the same species.
What I said must have gone over your head, or you realized it and are agreeing with it.
I'm trying to give that question to the OP to see what he says, and when clearly would not be able to answer it, my point would have been made that racial definitions are useless, we are all the same species. Interracial kids help prove this, how do you label someone who is part of both artificially labelled races and cultures, in the end we are all the same species.
It was a rhetorical question. I have established such premise long ago. The problem here lies within people's perspective that races and cultures are clearly different, all the while denying the fact everyone is human regardless. If everyone was treated as a human above all else, monotonous culture and language for everyone on the planet eliminates diversity and distinctiveness. Having diversity creates meaningful purposes to learn from each other, but it also creates the propensity to destroy each other.
Or having diversity creates an endless waste of time to study artificial cultural differences which really mean nothing in the end-- diverting our time and resources from things that are truely important
If the all the human resources people have put into religion have been put into studying diseases and other biological thought we could be much better off
Or having diversity creates an endless waste of time to study artificial cultural differences which really mean nothing in the end-- diverting our time and resources from things that are truely important
With your ideology, you systematically killed off the study of humanities, first nation studies, archaeology, and more. Not a problem with me, as I can live without them. Diversity or no diversity, I don't advocate one or the other, it's an issue in which I am indifferent.
randomuser;32288 said:
If the all the human resources people have put into religion have been put into studying diseases and other biological thought we could be much better off
You can say that, it also drives them to commit civil wars in other countries. I can't say for sure what'd happen in communities without religion. Are you talking about organized or non organized?
I think I have proof in indiginous peoples beliefs in gods without trying to conquer other civilizations or force their views on anyone.
I'd like to see the world without religion and see the strife or lack there of. If everything plunged into chaos then I'd shut up.
Does organized religion act as an opiate for people to behave? Or does it prevent people from cherishing the only time they have on earth since there is no heaven or hell, and they would treat eachother better because of this? I think it doesnt keep them obedient in all cases, I think the fact you can have a heaven or hell says do whatever the fuck this book says and you live again. Look at suicide bombers.
can we please get back to the original topic? Something about Asian girls...no that's not it..:confused:
How about you get your head out of your religious zealot ass and read the context of my comments above? Me and mrbubbles are talking about cultural norms which is exactly relevant to this thread. If you don't like it don't comment, you didn't contribute anything useful with your comment.
Does organized religion act as an opiate for people to behave? Or does it prevent people from cherishing the only time they have on earth since there is no heaven or hell, and they would treat eachother better because of this?
Yes. Yes. No. If religion and ethnic differences doesn't cause violence, people are bound to find something else to fight about.
randomuser;32303 said:
I think it doesnt keep them obedient in all cases, I think the fact you can have a heaven or hell says do whatever the fuck this book says and you live again. Look at suicide bombers.
Most religion has a governing body, the example you made regarding suicide bombers are preached by people who have no affiliation with their respective governing body and is using religion as tool to advance a specific agenda. That's not religion, that's propaganda.
IVT;32323 said:
let's just agree that parents need to back off with the "My [insert nationality] son/daughter should meet a nice [insert same nationality] boy/girl"
Plus, it would make the relationship more interesting, no?
No, parents shouldn't give a fuck what nationality their child is dating, it's irrelevant. Nationality of an individual speaks little next to nothing about the character and value of the person.
Yes. Yes. No. If religion and ethnic differences doesn't cause violence, people are bound to find something else to fight about.
Most religion has a governing body, the example you made regarding suicide bombers are preached by people who have no affiliation with their respective governing body and is using religion as tool to advance a specific agenda. That's not religion, that's propaganda.
1) I'm just curious to see all the facets of what people would fight about, when religion is no longer [a tool that...]
2) I see both sides of the religious coin and the interplay between: people thinking with religious principles to guide their lives, be them good or bad -- and the part which I think is more dangerous, people manipulating their good and bad intentions to their benefit...I know the antithesis to what I just said is, well people would find another way to manipulate people, in addition to people will find another reason to fight with eachother...but I guess my response is we wont ever be able to see that or we havent seen that which by default ends the debate except for hypothesizing
In regards to point one, I know people may fight about land and resources, is cooperation really not an option? but I'm honestly curious to the new excuses they will use besides "birth of right, im better than cause i was chosen...etc"
Why must you be one or the other? Isn't that just a narrow-minded world view? That you must be able to fit somebody into a specific category. Otherwise you experience cognitive dissonance when you're trying to fit somebody into a nicely wrapped package. I find that even more annoying, personally. Somebody who is exactly like everybody else.
It's not really about fitting into a specific category (unlike fashion), but more like how people view you and would expect you to know something.
It's like if you're lost in Africa and you see 2 people, a white person and an african person. Wouldn't you be more likely to ask the white person for directions first (in english), having high hopes/expectations that the white person would understand you?
Likewise, if you look chinese, other chinese people would also have the basic expectations of you understanding (some) chinese.
1) I'm just curious to see all the facets of what people would fight about, when religion is no longer [a tool that...]
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randomuser;32343 said:
In regards to point one, I know people may fight about land and resources, is cooperation really not an option? but I'm honestly curious to the new excuses they will use besides "birth of right, im better than cause i was chosen...etc"
Chinese people are just strict. My parents are robots.
On a side note, I see lots of Filipino guys with White girls.
I've also seen lots of Old Asian ladies (like 70s-80s) with Old Black men, which I find interesting because when they were young, there were lots of racial issues at that time.
I've also seen lots of Old Asian ladies (like 70s-80s) with Old Black men, which I find interesting because when they were young, there were lots of racial issues at that time.
It's because they were so unfulfilled sexually because of the small pen15 of the asian that they had to go black.
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Plus, when you're in your teens, NOBODY intends to marry the person they're going out with, I can guarantee you that.
I don't know about you, but I don't evolve like Pokemon hahaha.
Anyway, ethnic groups outside of their country are interested in preserving their culture. I know a lot of people who are Chinese, but they don't know how to speak any Chinese dialects, or know any of their relatives back home. It's a big issue here for parents whether to raise their children like they would in HK, or to raise them like the Canadian parents here. Our values are totally different, so preservation is a key thing people want to try to do. I can tell you that it's just as important. There are lots of things that can get in the way of being compatible, and cultural background is one of them.
For example, a chinese person who doesn't understand chinese at all or pretends not to know any when in fact he does. No matter how good his english skills are, white people will never truly accept him as white (due to looking chinese), and chinese people will also never truly think of him as chinese (due to not understanding any chinese).
Lets say mom is white, dad is asian, child looks somewhere in the middle, and the dad leaves and the child is raised only around white people. Should the child act to whichever race they look more like? Or how or who they are raised with or the lack there of?
Also, if someone is going to only "accept" someone based on their racial background, they aren't worth hanging around with. Accept them based on the context of their characters. Isn't that what MLK used to say?
EDIT: I don't know if that's sarcasm or not, but whatever.
I'm trying to give that question to the OP to see what he says, and when clearly would not be able to answer it, my point would have been made that racial definitions are useless, we are all the same species. Interracial kids help prove this, how do you label someone who is part of both artificially labelled races and cultures, in the end we are all the same species.
If the all the human resources people have put into religion have been put into studying diseases and other biological thought we could be much better off
I think I have proof in indiginous peoples beliefs in gods without trying to conquer other civilizations or force their views on anyone.
I'd like to see the world without religion and see the strife or lack there of. If everything plunged into chaos then I'd shut up.
Does organized religion act as an opiate for people to behave? Or does it prevent people from cherishing the only time they have on earth since there is no heaven or hell, and they would treat eachother better because of this?
I think it doesnt keep them obedient in all cases, I think the fact you can have a heaven or hell says do whatever the fuck this book says and you live again. Look at suicide bombers.
Plus, it would make the relationship more interesting, no?
2) I see both sides of the religious coin and the interplay between: people thinking with religious principles to guide their lives, be them good or bad -- and the part which I think is more dangerous, people manipulating their good and bad intentions to their benefit...I know the antithesis to what I just said is, well people would find another way to manipulate people, in addition to people will find another reason to fight with eachother...but I guess my response is we wont ever be able to see that or we havent seen that which by default ends the debate except for hypothesizing
In regards to point one, I know people may fight about land and resources, is cooperation really not an option? but I'm honestly curious to the new excuses they will use besides "birth of right, im better than cause i was chosen...etc"
It's like if you're lost in Africa and you see 2 people, a white person and an african person. Wouldn't you be more likely to ask the white person for directions first (in english), having high hopes/expectations that the white person would understand you?
Likewise, if you look chinese, other chinese people would also have the basic expectations of you understanding (some) chinese.
My parents are robots.
On a side note, I see lots of Filipino guys with White girls.
I've also seen lots of Old Asian ladies (like 70s-80s) with Old Black men, which I find interesting because when they were young, there were lots of racial issues at that time.