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Help me with my next move...

edited April 2008 in General
So I went out with this woman on Friday night. We had a great time. We have alot in common. Just went and had a drink at this bar. Toward the end, got the check and she offered to give me some cash, but I told her no way, but thanks for offering. I thought that was definitely cool of her.

We walk outside, and she asks me if I was available the next evening (last night), so I was like yeah, sure. I give her a hug, and I walk toward my car. She turns around and is like, "that's not too fast is it?" I say, "Nah, don't worry about it. I'd like to see you again." We part for the night.

The next day rolls around, and she calls me mid-afternoon to cancel. She says she wants to spend some time with her mother that evening, because she was sick and didn't want her to be lonely. I don't take offense to this at all, because she told me during the date what's going on with her mom. It's a potentially serious condition (can't remember the name), so of course, I'm like - yeah, please don't worry about the date. Another time, no worries. She says, "yeah, maybe next week after work or next weekend." I just say ok, enjoy your time with your mom, ttyl."

What should be my next move? Should I call her again to ask for another date, wait for her?

Comments

  • edited March 2008
    I think it's fine if you call her - either way it doesn't really matter. And yes if you were the woman in this example I would suggest it would be better to wait for the [man] to call.

    How did you feel about her asking you out right after the date and for the very next night? (Sounds like you liked it, but just asking).
  • edited March 2008
    Part of me was like - does she assume I have no social life? lol.
    The other part felt - well, maybe she likes me. This isn't bad.
    Of course, a small part of me was annoyed when she canceled, but don't pin me as being heartless here. I totally understand her situation.
  • edited March 2008
    You should call her because if you dont, she might take it as a sign that you are not interested in her.

    Give it like two days and then call :)
  • edited March 2008
    Definitely call.
  • edited March 2008
    Just call her to ask if her mom is doing better... then maybe if some other topics pop up about another date, there's your bonus ^__^
  • edited March 2008
    i would call and talk about her mom, and how shes doing
    i wouldn’t really mention the date thing cuz that would seem to take away emphasis u called to see how she’s doing and how her mom is doing, emphasis being on calling for her not yourself - and most definitely she will bring up the date
    i hope that makes sense
  • edited March 2008
    I'm totally with vonnie and bufli. If she really didn't want to cancel with you (cuz of her mom's situation), she'd definitely want to hear from you. Also, it looks awfully good on your part to be asking how her mom's doing...

    I wouldn't really bring up the date tho...unless she brought it up. Try just talking to her over the phone too if you guys can't meet up yet. I think you can tell a lot about each other even just over the phone.
  • edited March 2008
    yeah give it a few days and call then ask how her mom is, girls like it when you show interest in their lives even if it is of no interest of you whatsoever
  • edited March 2008
    That's exactly what I was going to say. Call and ask how her mom is doing, mention that you had a great time the other night, and if she takes it from there then so be it.
    If she's interested in you, I'm sure she'll initiate something. You seem to have already shown your interest.
  • edited March 2008
    What a bunch of smart cookies...I'm so glad I asked! A seemingly complex situation has now become so clear :)
  • edited April 2008
    so what happened? did you call her?

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