hm... i'm not the type who likes to use breakup threats (or threats in general) as i think they're overrated.. if something is wrong in the relationship.. i like sit down and talk it out as opposed to threatening your other half which can create potential problems later on..
breakup wise.. if i've tried talking and putting efforts to maintain the relationship in good standing yet things still don't work out.. i'll probably dish out the break-up talk and when that happens.. there's pretty much no room for compromising because by that time.. i've probably given it a lot of thought before coming to that decision.. =)
threats are awesome, they work wonders esp when u don’t really give a $h!t even better is insults after u dump the person that’s just plain comedy! =P (in both cases i mean receiving them not giving)
Ive also used break-up threats, but only when they are justified. If i feel that my bf is going to do something that i see as a deal-breaker, i tell him that it will possibly cause harm to our relationship if he goes through with it. I dont tell him, "omg well then im just gonna break up with you if you do that!" I do it in more of a subtle way, and only when its really needed.
People like you make relationships sooooo not worth it. This issue of women "wearing the pants" is getting on my nerves. The dynamics of the relationship becomes just about HER.
Proof:
vonnie;25951 said:
"Oh yea? Then leave me."
They never have the guts too. Weee~ I "wore the pants" in 99% of my relationships hahahaha.
It's a trend that ladies are becoming more and more the dominant partner, but in an ideal world...wouldnt half-half be the best way? And no distinguishing of who's got more power?
Vonnie, i guess 99% of your past boyfriends now refer you to the "crazy ex-girlfriend". Haha.
Actually, I broke up with all of them so they can't call me "craze ex gf" =D IF I was that crazy, they'd break up with me right? Hahaha. (Hence the threat). My ex-bf's are the ones that turn crazy... (ie. one stalked me a good 1 yr after we broke up and told me everyday after that he loved me. C-RAZZZY!)
Plus those "relationships" don't even count. They're not significant enough to count lol. You could say I was bored.
But the one now I'm happy with, so I can actually say I'm in a relationship. We both share the pants so to speak, hahahaha.
Usually I don't threaten to break up with them, I threaten THEM to break up with me. "Oh yea? Then leave me."
They never have the guts too. Weee~ I "wore the pants" in 99% of my relationships hahahaha.
That threat is pretty good and someone really did use it on me. I didn't care much so I replied with a "fine, I will" and just left. We never talked after.
lol a line I used in the past was "if u keep this up, u really think I’ll stick around?" or "for how long do u think I’m going to put up with this bs and somehow 'sorry' fixes everything but ur attitude doesn’t change?"
my ex didn’t even have anything on me cuz we both realized it would end so ya only thing she said was “if u break up with me ill never take u back” so ya.. worked out that we both have big egos and both of us stuck by our lines lol
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breakup wise.. if i've tried talking and putting efforts to maintain the relationship in good standing yet things still don't work out.. i'll probably dish out the break-up talk and when that happens.. there's pretty much no room for compromising because by that time.. i've probably given it a lot of thought before coming to that decision.. =)
even better is insults after u dump the person that’s just plain comedy! =P
(in both cases i mean receiving them not giving)
ending on neutral terms is not a bad thing, better that the alternative sometimes
"Oh yea? Then leave me."
They never have the guts too. Weee~ I "wore the pants" in 99% of my relationships hahahaha.
Ive also used break-up threats, but only when they are justified. If i feel that my bf is going to do something that i see as a deal-breaker, i tell him that it will possibly cause harm to our relationship if he goes through with it. I dont tell him, "omg well then im just gonna break up with you if you do that!" I do it in more of a subtle way, and only when its really needed.
I dont like using them tho.
Proof: It's a trend that ladies are becoming more and more the dominant partner, but in an ideal world...wouldnt half-half be the best way? And no distinguishing of who's got more power?
Vonnie, i guess 99% of your past boyfriends now refer you to the "crazy ex-girlfriend". Haha.
IF I was that crazy, they'd break up with me right? Hahaha. (Hence the threat). My ex-bf's are the ones that turn crazy... (ie. one stalked me a good 1 yr after we broke up and told me everyday after that he loved me. C-RAZZZY!)
Plus those "relationships" don't even count. They're not significant enough to count lol. You could say I was bored.
But the one now I'm happy with, so I can actually say I'm in a relationship. We both share the pants so to speak, hahahaha.
or "for how long do u think I’m going to put up with this bs and somehow 'sorry' fixes everything but ur attitude doesn’t change?"
my ex didn’t even have anything on me cuz we both realized it would end so ya only thing she said was “if u break up with me ill never take u back” so ya.. worked out that we both have big egos and both of us stuck by our lines lol
does that qualify as an accomplishment? :confused: