I agree, trust me, any relationship without sex is in trouble, unless you married them knowing they could not get it up.
One, you will end up wanting it from other people.
Two, you will be envious of your friends getting it.
Three, your friends will wonder why its not happening.
Not having sex before marriage is dangerous. But of course most christians take part in oral sex because they don't consider it sex, when it really is. I think giving someone a 'hand' is the same thing, a low risk sexual activity.
I think that waiting until marriage is fantastic for some people, but I agree that it's a major part of a relationship for others. People wait for different reasons obviously -- a friend of mine and her fiance are waiting for religious purposes, meanwhile another friend and her boyfriend are waiting because she's just afraid of getting pregnant, and she reacts strangely to the pill. And he's allergic to latex. Great combo!
When I was younger I thought I would wait, but once I started dating I realized that 1) I was way too horny to actually wait until I was in my 20s, and 2) it's a huge part of growing up and actually brought a lot of maturity for me.
Like I said, I probably wish I could have waited a little bit longer to know the person that much better, but I didn't need a ring on my finger to tell me that it's fine and dandy.
my thinking behind that comment is this: If a relationship is based on sex, eventually the couple will get tired of each other's bodies. Then they will want someone "new" and will eventually break up.
my thinking behind that comment is this: If a relationship is based on sex, eventually the couple will get tired of each other's bodies. Then they will want someone "new" and will eventually break up.
Waiting until marriage -No STDs (unless you marry someone who is infected) -No unwanted pregnancy -Saving it for The One
Not waiting until marriage -Gain experience -See what's out there -Judge sexual compatibility w/ potential husband/wife
That's what it comes down to. Take your pick. there are benefits and drawbacks to both choices.
1)You dont necessarily get STD's by having sex before your married. There is such thing as monogamous relationships :shade: You can get STD's in marriages as well, people cheat.
2)Since when is having a child before marriage unwanted? That is strictly a religious thing
3)Trust me once you have sex, you wont think youre saving it for the one. It really does not matter. Do you know how many first marriages end in divorce? Upwards of 50%
You're missing the fact all us girls are saying, sex isn't everything, its just part of a healthy relationship.
And what if the guy can't get it up but goes down on her alllllllllllll the time lol. I doubt she'd be jealous then since I figure most guys don't like going down there, lol.
yes...at the cost of the current relationship. That's my point.
I'm talking about new things in a relationship... Positions, toys...do I need to delve further? If your argument is that a relationship can get 'boring' because of sex, there are so, so many ways to make things more, erm, interesting???
EDIT: And I'm not saying that anyone should feel obliged to get out of their comfort zone so to speak, just to 'fix' a relationship...but I really don't believe that a sex life can become boring, so I don't understand those arguments.
Waiting until marriage -No STDs (unless you marry someone who is infected) -No unwanted pregnancy -Saving it for The One
Not waiting until marriage -Gain experience -See what's out there -Judge sexual compatibility w/ potential husband/wife
That's what it comes down to. Take your pick. there are benefits and drawbacks to both choices.
And as for these....
1) No one is forcing you to have sex with someone with an STD. Be conscious. 2) Contraceptives are an option, but I'm also a firm believer in being prepared for a pregnancy if that so happens. Financially, emotionally, etc. So is that really a con if I intend on having kids in the future? 3) I doubt The One is saving it for me.
my thinking behind that comment is this: If a relationship is based on sex, eventually the couple will get tired of each other's bodies. Then they will want someone "new" and will eventually break up.
Yes, but you're taking it as if people who have sex are SOLELY basing their relationship on sex.
People who've waited until marriage can easily base their marriage on sex, as well. Haven't you ever met anyone who've waited till marriage and then found out they weren't sexually compatible, then divorced because of it?
A relationship based SOLELY on any one thing is OF COURSE not going to work, whether it be sex or love or friendship. A lasting relationship needs ALL THESE THINGS WORKING TOGETHER.
A relationship based solely on love: Lacking any real sustenance to keep it going once that love dims.
A relationship based solely on friendship: It may be comfortable, but comfort gets boring at one point or another.
As far as I've read, no one in this thread has stated that he/she bases their relationship on sex, so I don't know exactly who you're reprimanding. :shade:
Oh, let me add a few more things to your lists:
Waiting until marriage - No STDs (unless you marry someone who is infected) You can also have no STDs if you are smart enough to protect yourself, THIS SHOULDN'T BE ON THE LIST - No unwanted pregnancy SHOULDN'T BE ON LIST, REASON ABOVE, ALSO, married couples who've waited ARE ALSO IN DANGER OF UNWANTED PREGNANCY... not every married couple wants to have children - Saving it for The One - Lack of sexual experience or maturity - Risk eventual failure of marriage due to sexual incompatibility
Not waiting until marriage - Gain sexual experience AS WELL AS confidence - See what's out there This shouldn't be on the list, as not everyone who chooses to have sex before marriage is "seeing what's out there," you make us sound like we're fucking like bunnies with all types of different partners. - Judge sexual compatibility w/ potential husband/wife - Being able to come into your own and be comfortable with your sexuality - Rite of passage, one that's as important as any other, marriage as well.
^yeah obviously that's a given. The argument is this: I say that a relationship cannot survive based ONLY on sex. the girls are saying that a relationship cannot survive based on ANY one element.
I think it ultimately comes down to how a person views a relationship.
I think it ultimately comes down to how a person views a relationship.
There are objective relationship standards, take some advise from some of us who have 'been around'.
While liking someone can definitely be a subjective standard at times, which is in agreement with your point...you come to a time where all the little stuff starts to piss you off and get on your nerves, and you cant ignore it anymore...trust us.
Little things like leaving the toilet seat up, stubble in the sink, body hair in the shower, never helping with the dishes, the way the person laughs, their grooming standards, their clothes, their shoes, their friends, their etiquette, the way they say certain words, the way they eat, and other things we have mentioned...
Sexual things, or the lack there of, guys always do stupid shit when youre almost there, and they change up and start doing something that doesn't work and you're back to square one.
In my experience it's mostly girls who are into experimentation. Guys kinda find their thing and stick to it. It's women who get bored and want to spice things up. The dead-fish types are not all that common, really.
In my experience it's mostly girls who are into experimentation. Guys kinda find their thing and stick to it. It's women who get bored and want to spice things up. The dead-fish types are not all that common, really.
Hi all, I just joined this forum. To think my first post would be here. Anyway, I lost mine when I was 17. She was one year older than me, going on 18. Should I have waited? Maybe... but it was a good learning experience. Stayed together for about 18 months and learn lots...
On another note, sex is not all that important if compatibility of characters wasn't there. I think that having sex just for the sake of losing your virginity is just wrong and you will most probably regret it. But if I said sex was over-rated, I would be lying. Sex is a good form of exercise, seeing how that we are sitting in front of our computers reading this forum. Sex also helps the immune system, right?
I would say I'm glad to have lost my virginity although I once vowed to my best friend that I would not have sex till I got married. How wrong I was...
Anyone remember the slogan: Once you pop, you can't stop... =)
In my biased opinion, a person who loses their virginity under the age of 15 is a slut, boy or girl. They will never amount to anything. Once they get a taste of the sweet cantaloupe juice at that age, their mind will not be able to comprehend much else. I tells it as it is
In my biased opinion, a person who loses their virginity under the age of 15 is a slut, boy or girl. They will never amount to anything. Once they get a taste of the sweet cantaloupe juice at that age, their mind will not be able to comprehend much else. I tells it as it is
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There is no way sex with 15-year-olds could be that awesome.
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One, you will end up wanting it from other people.
Two, you will be envious of your friends getting it.
Three, your friends will wonder why its not happening.
Not having sex before marriage is dangerous. But of course most christians take part in oral sex because they don't consider it sex, when it really is. I think giving someone a 'hand' is the same thing, a low risk sexual activity.
When I was younger I thought I would wait, but once I started dating I realized that 1) I was way too horny to actually wait until I was in my 20s, and 2) it's a huge part of growing up and actually brought a lot of maturity for me.
Like I said, I probably wish I could have waited a little bit longer to know the person that much better, but I didn't need a ring on my finger to tell me that it's fine and dandy.
I would be horrified to wait until marriage to only discover he has a 3 inch penis, that would be a deal breaker.
If a relationship is based on sex, eventually the couple will get tired of each other's bodies. Then they will want someone "new" and will eventually break up.
Waiting until marriage
-No STDs (unless you marry someone who is infected)
-No unwanted pregnancy
-Saving it for The One
Not waiting until marriage
-Gain experience
-See what's out there
-Judge sexual compatibility w/ potential husband/wife
That's what it comes down to. Take your pick. there are benefits and drawbacks to both choices.
2)Since when is having a child before marriage unwanted? That is strictly a religious thing
3)Trust me once you have sex, you wont think youre saving it for the one. It really does not matter. Do you know how many first marriages end in divorce? Upwards of 50%
You're missing the fact all us girls are saying, sex isn't everything, its just part of a healthy relationship.
And what if the guy can't get it up but goes down on her alllllllllllll the time lol. I doubt she'd be jealous then since I figure most guys don't like going down there, lol.
Positions, toys...do I need to delve further?
If your argument is that a relationship can get 'boring' because of sex, there are so, so many ways to make things more, erm, interesting???
EDIT:
And I'm not saying that anyone should feel obliged to get out of their comfort zone so to speak, just to 'fix' a relationship...but I really don't believe that a sex life can become boring, so I don't understand those arguments.
1) No one is forcing you to have sex with someone with an STD. Be conscious.
2) Contraceptives are an option, but I'm also a firm believer in being prepared for a pregnancy if that so happens. Financially, emotionally, etc. So is that really a con if I intend on having kids in the future?
3) I doubt The One is saving it for me.
People who've waited until marriage can easily base their marriage on sex, as well. Haven't you ever met anyone who've waited till marriage and then found out they weren't sexually compatible, then divorced because of it?
A relationship based SOLELY on any one thing is OF COURSE not going to work, whether it be sex or love or friendship. A lasting relationship needs ALL THESE THINGS WORKING TOGETHER.
A relationship based solely on love: Lacking any real sustenance to keep it going once that love dims.
A relationship based solely on friendship: It may be comfortable, but comfort gets boring at one point or another.
As far as I've read, no one in this thread has stated that he/she bases their relationship on sex, so I don't know exactly who you're reprimanding. :shade:
Oh, let me add a few more things to your lists:
Waiting until marriage
- No STDs (unless you marry someone who is infected) You can also have no STDs if you are smart enough to protect yourself, THIS SHOULDN'T BE ON THE LIST
- No unwanted pregnancy SHOULDN'T BE ON LIST, REASON ABOVE, ALSO, married couples who've waited ARE ALSO IN DANGER OF UNWANTED PREGNANCY... not every married couple wants to have children
- Saving it for The One
- Lack of sexual experience or maturity
- Risk eventual failure of marriage due to sexual incompatibility
Not waiting until marriage
- Gain sexual experience AS WELL AS confidence
- See what's out there This shouldn't be on the list, as not everyone who chooses to have sex before marriage is "seeing what's out there," you make us sound like we're fucking like bunnies with all types of different partners.
- Judge sexual compatibility w/ potential husband/wife
- Being able to come into your own and be comfortable with your sexuality
- Rite of passage, one that's as important as any other, marriage as well.
Lastly, let me just say...
IF YOU DON'T USE IT, IT WILL FALL OFF. :omg:
I don't care about other people and what they do, they can do or not do whoever they want. It's their life, their choice.
As long as you don't interrupt MY plans, s'all good =P
I say that a relationship cannot survive based ONLY on sex.
the girls are saying that a relationship cannot survive based on ANY one element.
I think it ultimately comes down to how a person views a relationship.
While liking someone can definitely be a subjective standard at times, which is in agreement with your point...you come to a time where all the little stuff starts to piss you off and get on your nerves, and you cant ignore it anymore...trust us.
Little things like leaving the toilet seat up, stubble in the sink, body hair in the shower, never helping with the dishes, the way the person laughs, their grooming standards, their clothes, their shoes, their friends, their etiquette, the way they say certain words, the way they eat, and other things we have mentioned...
Sexual things, or the lack there of, guys always do stupid shit when youre almost there, and they change up and start doing something that doesn't work and you're back to square one.
On another note, sex is not all that important if compatibility of characters wasn't there. I think that having sex just for the sake of losing your virginity is just wrong and you will most probably regret it. But if I said sex was over-rated, I would be lying. Sex is a good form of exercise, seeing how that we are sitting in front of our computers reading this forum. Sex also helps the immune system, right?
I would say I'm glad to have lost my virginity although I once vowed to my best friend that I would not have sex till I got married. How wrong I was...
Anyone remember the slogan: Once you pop, you can't stop... =)
There is no way sex with 15-year-olds could be that awesome.
Or sweet.
Seriously. Small penis and a face-full of a acne?
FUCKING GROSS.