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No experience with girls - HELP!
Ok...so I have a huge problem...I'm a 18 years old and I'm a virgin...but that's not it...I've never kissed a girl either...nor have I hugged one...
Truthfully, I've never even held hands with one either except by mistake. I've never spoken with a member of the opposite sex for more than a minute either (besides family members and teachers). I can't even remember the last time I actually touched a girl either...
So, yes....I need help...lots of it...
Truthfully, I've never even held hands with one either except by mistake. I've never spoken with a member of the opposite sex for more than a minute either (besides family members and teachers). I can't even remember the last time I actually touched a girl either...
So, yes....I need help...lots of it...
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for starters, get some confidence, buddy
live your life and a girl will come along
eg: i met my ex on the bus (the rest of it didn't go so well but that's another story...)
basically, just live life day by day, enjoy it, and someone will come along
oh and i'm sick of people crying about "oh i'm still a virgin" boohoo
let me give you a clue...you're not missing out on much
or as Chopper Read says: Harden the fuck up!
I'm basically a coward and have absolutely no confidence in myself. What is there to be confident about? If features of a person could be rated out of a scale of 10, I'd rate myself: 4/10 Academics, 2/10 Sports, 4/10 Appearance, 3/10 Personality....
I don't want to admit it but I fail at life itself...
or someone not exciting in bed...
and dude, you're not missing out on much anyway. Also, its better to worry about whether you will have chemistry with that girl rather than worrying about getting the first kiss etc. I got all that, but had no chemistry so I gained nothing.
trust me...the first ____ will happen eventually. Worry about succeeding in life in general first.
its just "meh"
for realz
To start a conversation and then have nothing to say = fail
Once you start a conversation, keep it going.
Try asking questions about school.
But: keep in mind that some girls just don't want to talk, and that's just fine.
I'll probably mess up but I guess it won't hurt to try anyways...
my advice to you is go out in public and talk to random people and try and keep conversations going
why?
because you will never meet them again so there is less pressure on ur ass since u seem to fuck up due to being self conscious
its all about choice dude u can sit there think about all ur flaws and that your not worthy and in reality if u think that way of urself then yes you are ...
or you can choose to change, lifes long, ur 18 man its not the end of the world so stop acting like ur life is over or ur gonna be lonely cuz thats all ur choice and if u act and think like this you will be lonely and you have no1 to blame but this idiotic logic
and im not tryn to be harsh or bash, im just being realistic
im sure there is something your good at doing, find girls or people in general with the same interests and talk to them it will feel more natural
and the best advice i can give u is dont even think about getting laid... think about just being a social human being...
knock back a couple shots and you'll feel 100 times confident.. lol
and dont listen to IVT about sex being "meh"
hes just trying to justify being a virgin lol
then it would hurt
or whips out the pepper spray
show that you have ambition/goals in life to succeed
don't appear desperate
and most importantly
CONVERSATION is critical.
talk to her and LISTEN as her endless spew of words is the air you breathe.