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Single forever...
Ok so I know a lot of people are in my situation so I want to hear opinions from absolutely everyone!
I have only ever had lame elementary school boyfriends and one lame highschool boyfriend when I was 13. I know. It's sad.
It's not like I have had anyone to reject either and it's not like I don't take my chances because I have tried telling the guys I liked how i felt and none of them returned the feelings.
I'm not obeise (at least i don't think i am), I'm not that ugly, I'm not a ditz, and I'm not a slut.
I flirt a little, I have lots of girl and guy friends, and it's not like I'm intimidating with good looks and stylish clothes etc. So what's wrong?
There could be many things. Tell me all the turn offs for you or why your regular friends of the opposite sex simply don't attract you.
For people like me, has anyone given you advise as to why you're in this situation?
I have only ever had lame elementary school boyfriends and one lame highschool boyfriend when I was 13. I know. It's sad.
It's not like I have had anyone to reject either and it's not like I don't take my chances because I have tried telling the guys I liked how i felt and none of them returned the feelings.
I'm not obeise (at least i don't think i am), I'm not that ugly, I'm not a ditz, and I'm not a slut.
I flirt a little, I have lots of girl and guy friends, and it's not like I'm intimidating with good looks and stylish clothes etc. So what's wrong?
There could be many things. Tell me all the turn offs for you or why your regular friends of the opposite sex simply don't attract you.
For people like me, has anyone given you advise as to why you're in this situation?
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if there was a sure formula to get a girl or guy then im sure it would be pirated and mass distributed by now:teeth:
if u really need advice check out the ugly truth
Honest to god, a lot of the time, that's the god damn reason.
People rarely realize that they put people to sleep.
but my post was sarcastic
funny and truth to their content, and heigl was looking stellar!
as for the OP, just keep investing in yourself.
I'm afraid I can't offer much in the way of encouragement except to try and keep an eye on who's keeping an eye on you. :) If you do see people doing so chances are you ARE actually attractive even if you don't think so yourself.
DevelopmentArrested, I don't pour my heart out. what i meant was that i just told them i liked them...something done in one or two sentences.
i don't have a problem being single.. i enjoy the freedom and the perks.. and illicit nailed one of them..
Exactly how ugly are you then?
even considering marriage before really knowing the person is ridiculous, heck i bet the type of people who consider marriage before being in a decent length relationship with someone are far more likely to settle then those who don't
at some point in the relationship i think you need to be fair and clear about what your intentions are because you have to think about the other person too.. they're probably investing time and effort into this relationship anticipating something meaningful to come out of it.. and you on the other hand.. are dating for the sake of dating.. i see how that can work if you find yourself a partner with the same mindset as you.. as in doesn't mind dating and staying that way.. but most people would want something more than that...
ultimately.. i think people just want to see results from their hard work and dedication in the relationship.. and that end result doesn't always have to be marriage and to think that this is what people are after when they have dating standards is well... very shortsighted of you.. =P
If she isn't getting any dates now, then I think she should accept any people that ask her out. 1) she gets her dates 2) she finds out what she wants in a guy. There are people who don't have any standards at all but there are also people who have such a long want list before a first date that it eliminates almost all guys before she gets a chance to know him.
If you don't have the looks, then make up for it in personality and get some decent clothing that make you look more attractive and is an extension of who you are. Be friendly with people and look approachable. Don't be boring. Learn to tell interesting stories and have an interesting lifestyle. Be happy with yourself and being single and choose to be in a relationship instead of having in be in one because you are afraid of being alone. We attract people who are similar to ourselves which means that your desperate vibe attracts desperate guys and being in that kind of a relationship, one would feel more alone than when they were single.
Also, there is nothing wrong with a girl asking out a guy. Just talk to him and do it casually. eg you are going to an event and would like him to come along.
"at some point in the relationship i think you need to be fair and clear about what your intentions are because you have to think about the other person too."
I definitely agree on this. I think there are three possibilities. 1) you want to continue to date casually and there is nothing serious (and therefore both people can date other people) 2) you don't know 3) you want to date exclusively or be in a relationship
now that i'm 1.5 weeks into uni...
problem solved =P